http://www.slate.com/id/2250590/?Gt1=38001

To ireland!!!

yeah u were lucky

i often thought about adoption, i may consider it in the future. i may adopt one from cambodia but i would have to live there for 2 years for it to be legal which is a major barrier.

Yea...I wanted to adopt an eighteen year old girl myself.  But the INS wouldn't let me.

i bet you 'd cried for days afterward

^^^^she cried more than me.

there are parents who have returned their birth child and some who wish they know how.

neaksre

Just because you weren't "Returned"...   doesn't mean you weren't  "Re-gifted" !     

 It's merely a matter of direction you see. Instead of going back...  you were, passed on.

Hi alex,

Assuming that it’s a “we” in the above post, I take my hat off to both of you, since you are not childless and, I presume, more than capable of having another child or more children of your own, if you so desire.

What I presume is the desire to “save” a Cambodian orphan from poverty and the shithole that is Cambodia is laudable, especially since hardly any Cambodian orphan with no blood link has been adopted by an overseas Khmer family.

If you are seriously considering an adoption, I strongly urge both of you to think about it extremely carefully.

Adoptive parents are idealistic and play down potential risks and problems which would only emerge much later.

For example, in Cambodia, people outside the family have the unfortunate habit of making the adopted child know and feel that s/he is not of the “same blood” as the adoptive parents and there are long-term psychological and behavioral consequences for everyone concerned.

More immediately and from a purely practical point of view, adopting in Cambodia is fraught with stresses and problems.

You may have seen the French movie” Holy Lola” which is based on the real-life adopting experience of friends of the director’s daughter in Cambodia.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Holy_Lola

Like everything else, adoptions are a business in Cambodia and even somebody as well-connected and rich as Angelina Jolie had to go through the (convicted in the US) adoption broker Lauryn Galindo to adopt Maddox.

http://poundpuplegacy.org/node/22103

hi khemara15,

for me, it really depends on a couple of factors, 1.) if i can actually bond w/ any other child 2.) if i have the financial resources to adopt a child 3.) the child has to be still a baby age (less than 14 months old e.g.)

after reading the article posted by neaksre, yes it sounds very difficult, and i agree with the author that adopting a child is not a destination but a process that can take years for "adoption" to be actually called adoption.

i think it's safe to say it's a long way from now until i can actually have the opportunity to adopt a child from cambodia.

"i" is correct. my partner cannot love any other child but her own.

Actually, my mom did returned me, but she did not have enough postage on so the USPS returned me with a stamp " inssufficient postage".

 Ya.  I get a lot of "Junk-mail" in my mailbox too. 

I bet they sent you, addressed to "Resident" or "Occupant".